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Allysha's avatar

Oof. Reading this whilst being on the bathroom floor myself is a hard hit. One I needed, but hard nonetheless. My courage to leave wanes because I have children to care for, but I’ve known for a bit that I deserve better. It’s time. ♥️ Thank you so much for this!

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Allysha, the moments you’re currently in are the hardest. I can promise there are things so good coming you can’t even begin to imagine them

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Allysha's avatar

I can’t tell you how much this means to me. As a woman without woman’s support in life I tend to feel very alone, especially when making these big decisions. I just keep telling myself how beautiful life will be when we are free ♥️

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Allysha's avatar

And also trying not to forget the beauty still around me while I transform.

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Amanda Michelle's avatar

A year out from my own Christmas time kernel of courage. Not once have I regretted it. I share many similar feelings and experiences you’ve so eloquently captured here. Thank you!

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Amanda I love this so much! To know how much freedom and expansion is on the other side! Yes!

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Radical Lover Girl's avatar

"the weight of losing myself was much more of a motivator than any reason to stay" -Ase thank you for this reflection and such a powerful statement. *clapping* I honor the honor you gave yourself to choose yourself first! Hit my soul and yes to The permission Slip to Fuck up your life!!!

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Nick's avatar

I’m struggling with this myself. I want to respect women’s spaces here, I do feel like a bit of an intruder in the positivity, so for that, I’m sorry. Part of what I struggle about is “it’s not that bad.” But there should be more. It’s been years of asking for more, but walls have come down now, and I don’t want to put in the effort any more. And I feel like the bad guy if I want to confront it and call out that we’re just roommates…and not good ones. She should have more. I want more, or something different. Like solitude. I can’t tell if this is a fantasy or if it’s worth the pain to make it through to the other side at this stage…44/45, married for 16 years. Awesome kids. I’m not just fucking up *my* life…

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MartiN's avatar

This is powerful and beautiful and much needed for me.

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maddy quoss's avatar

You magic woman. Perfectly captured the words I’ve never been able to express. 3 years out from blowing up my life as I knew it, and I’ve never been more grateful for the version of me that picked myself up from that bathroom floor.

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Rebecca Ferguson's avatar

This is beautiful and heartbreaking. I went through a difficult end to my marriage 8.5 years ago and look back knowing it was the best decision I made. Thank you for giving others permission to change their lives. 🙏

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Srav's avatar

I loved this post! “Trust in the fact that the person coming to save you will always, in the end, be you” I wish this was emphasized so much more in society, especially to women. Growing up I always thought that I would get swept away and always gravitated towards people that would “save” me, but only 24 years later realized the moment you can truly, confidently rely on yourself will the game completely change🙌

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Emma Rooker's avatar

Thank you, deeply, for this piece.

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Carla's avatar

I appreciate this message so so much.

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Thank you for reading it and connecting to the parts you needed. The skies will not fall x

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Carla's avatar

Thank you for writing and sharing it!

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Shari Campa's avatar

This post speaks so deeply to the part of me garnering the courage to fuck up my life and a 32 year relationship. The skies will not fall. Grateful for your voice and the vulnerability to share it with us 🤍

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Shari you are courageous and I’m so proud of you

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Ilva's avatar

Thank you. I needed to hear exactly this. ❤️

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Sitting with you 💖🩵

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katja cerne's avatar

This was such an encouraging post and a welcome reminder to trust myself. Thank you.

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Sam Rueter's avatar

There is no one who has your back more than you!!! Trust that your feelings emotions and longings know best 💖

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swiley's avatar

Posts like this are why I say no when women ask to get married.

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Sam Rueter's avatar

Woof.

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emily cook's avatar

Messages like that are exactly what friends are for: to see right through us and understand. Beautiful piece!

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Sam Rueter's avatar

I appreciate you reading Emily! safe spaces like that friendship truly make all the difference in life

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Sam Rueter's avatar

You are so held and seen my friend!

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